Radical Acceptance has always been a very hard concept forme to grasp and maybe not even grasp but implement and accept for myself. As I am able for the most part to help others in understanding it somehwat but not really implementing it.
According to The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by McKay,Wood, and Brantley “The word dialectic (in dialectical behavior therapy)means to balance and caompare two things that appear very different or even contradictory. In dialectical behavior therapy, the balance is between change and acceptance (Linehan, 1993a). You need to change the behaviors in your life that are creating more suffering for yourself and others while simultaneously also accepting yourself the way you are.
Radical Acceptance is one of the hardest skills to master because it will require you to look at yourself and the world in a different way. However, it’s also one of the most important skills in dialectical behavior therapy (linehan, 1993a). Radical acceptance means that you accept something completely, without judging it. for example, radically accepting the presant moment means that you dont fight it, get angry at it, or try to change it into something that it’s not. To radically accept the present moment means that you acknowledge that the presant moment is what it is due to a long chain of events and decisions made by you and other people in the past. The presant moment never spontaneously leaps into existancewithout being causedby events that have already taken place.”
Radically accepting it does not mean that you like it or approve of it. It just means you accept it as it is. It means it is what it is and you have realized their is nothing that you can do to change it. You accept it for what it is no more no less.